Avoiding the second stage. See post on this discussion.
For most of us our return to our true identity is a three stage journey; from slave, to servant, to son or daughter.
We start out as slaves to our own self focus. We call it sin but it is really just a deep commitment to independence from God.
Those who begin to respond to God’s offer to return us to our true identity usually enter stage two. We become His servants. We desire to live as a son or daughter but we believe this better identity is something we have to earn. Sensible but false. Many stay right here for a lifetime believing they have arrived, yet this half way house is no place of real belonging.
Our true identity is not found at God’s office but in His kitchen where sons and daughters share their days and laugh about their failures. God has no employees, only children. Don’t stop walking home.